Feb 13, 2019
Mercedes Samudio, LCSW is a parent coach, speaker, bestselling
author, and founder of the Diversity in
Parenting conference who helps parents and children communicate
with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and
technology together, and develop healthy parent-child
relationships. She started the #EndParentShaming movement and
coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting — using both to bring
awareness to ending parent shame. Mercedes is on a mission to
empower parents in believing in their innate ability to guide and
raise healthy, happy children.
In this episode, Mercedes Samudio and I
- Mercedes and I go back about 4 years and we’ve witnessed
transformations in one another. As I’ve watched Mercedes root into
all that she is professionally today her message has stayed
consistent, how she embodies and delivers that message, however,
has deepened and matured. Her confidence has evolved as she’s shed
layers of who she thought she was suppose to be to become who she
- Her passion, wanting to help families, is deeply tied to her
own healing and her ability to reconcile healing her inner child
and how not being scared to discuss her own healing has enabled her
to feel more connected to and assertive of her overall
- Healing our own inner children is a critical topic that seems
to come up in every episode of this show.
- Dispelling the myth that once you become a parent you’re
- Parents come with their own internal struggles to heal their
own childhoods and it floods back in parenthood and how we don’t
tend to give parents the space to heal, which is the same space we
heal intergenerational traumas.
- Parenting Identity is all the stuff that comes with the term
parenting that you’ve created and held throughout your life: the
parents you had, the people you watched parent, what culture and
research says about parenting, what society says about parenting…
and why it’s so important to reckon with these messages.
- The ongoing struggle to sit with our own imperfections, to-do
lists, navigate parenthood and hold it all everyday and how to
manage the complexities of deepened awarenesses.
- We’ve bought into the myth that parenting has to mean something
and the guilt, shame and fear that comes with that.
- Her book, Shame
Proof Parenting, and the journey that writing the book has
taken her on. There is no A-Z process of raising a human because
there is no A-Z process to being a human. And how the book is
starting to shift mindsets.
- Representation — the parenting world is predominately made up
of White women and many modern parenting methods require you to be
a part of a culture that sees you. When BIPOC, Adoptive, LGBTQ and
Special-Needs mothers try to enter popular modern parenting realms,
she may be the only one there, and the only one in her
family/community that’s doing it and it can be really difficult to
continue on in a space where there is no one else there that looks
like you/understands your struggle.
- We talk about how frustration fueled Mercedes to create the
Parenting Conference and what the conference is all about: if
you’re a parenting or mental health professionals who is looking
for more skills in how to work with diverse parents and family
- Deeper messages about why representation matters to help
everyone feel validated and seen.
Find Mercedes at shameproofparenting.com
Learn more about the Diversity in Parenting conference September
13-14, 2019 in Anaheim, CA at diversityinparentingconference.com
(early bird tickets available through March 2019).
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25-28, 2019 at Menla Resort in NY, learn more at connectfulness.com/signature-retreat
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